Friday, January 22, 2010

Be It Resolved

Yesterday, I was having lunch with my friend, T.  T. masquerades as a mild-mannered bureaucrat and soccer mom, but secretly she is a sage.  There we were, having lunch at a local bakery and chit-chatting, when the most profound statement fell out of her mouth.  What she said was that her New Year's Resolution was to fix the things that weren't working in the lives of her and her family.  Eureka!  Isn't that the best New Year's Resolution ever?  I mean, it just sums it all up, right there. 

In contrast, my New Year's Resolutions are not profound in the least.  (Although next year, I may copy Ms. T.  Seriously, hers is the best New Year's Resolution I've ever heard.)  So, what are my  resolutions? Well, for this year, I hope to shed a lot of excess baggage. Meaning clutter and weight. It’s difficult for me to put this out there, as I’ve struggled with my clutter and weight issues for years. I have a lot of shame around these topics, particularly my weight. Putting this out there is scary. What if I fail? Like I have so many times before?

And, I don’t want to turn this into a weight loss blog. Not that there is anything wrong with that, but I don’t want to obsess about my weight and what I’m eating and how much of what kind of exercising I’m doing. I probably think about food too much now—I read cookbooks for fun, y’all! Fattie porn! But I don’t want to replace that kind of obsession with an obsession over calorie counts and fat grams and carbs. I want to devote more of that emotional and intellectual energy on living my dang life! I want my thinking and actions around food to just be normal. That’s not too much to ask, is it?

So, I don’t have a food plan or exercise plan per se. I am working a program called “The Grown Up Girl’s Guide to Weight Loss”. I’m not dieting, I'm making better food choices. I’m being gentle with myself. I’m giving myself credit for the things I do right, not beating myself up for the things I do wrong. I’m taking baby steps. I’m thinking long term. I’m expecting results to come, but slowly. And I’m hopeful.


Robin Thomas said...

I love you the way you are right this very minute. But if who I love isn't exactly making you happy, then I am all for you getting to a better place. I will help in any way possible. You are brave!

Zen Mama said...

I read cookbooks for fun too. Fattie porn is a brilliant way to phrase it. I'll never be able to look at my Better Homes & Gardens cookbook the same way, ever again!

I like your plan and I totally relate to the courage it takes to put it out there. I am with you in spirit.

Milly said...

There’s a lot of stuff that I want to work on in my life and being health is at the top of my list. I’ve shed myself of almost 10 lbs in two weeks and intend to keep going. My 12 week plan is 50 lbs. by Christmas I want to be able to dawn that red outfit I wore at the age of thirty.

I’m eating fruit and veggies plus cactus. That’s right CACTUS. The stuff is really good for you. I buy it at a little market then clean it and freeze it. I make salads with spinach, fruit, and cactus. I munch on it with the fruit. I eat lots of grains also and snack on almonds when I want a crunch.

I think before I eat it and check to see if it’s worth it.

I’ve splurged (Not calling it cheating) when I took Miss Littles to Copeland’s for dinner when we had a mom and daughter day out.

For me it’s about being healthy and staying that way. Too many health issues in the family history. I want to watch my kids grow up and play with grandchildren

Hears to us gals being healthier in 2010!

Penny said...

You rock, girlfriend! We love you as is! But I get fixing the things that aren't working-completely. All the best in getting rid of whatever hinders you. I did! heehee

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Cheryl Carey Bass said...

Look, I don't even know your real name yet, but I feel a bond with you already...for so many reasons. A) You are a gifted writer! You have a REAL talent for sharing and then on top of that you're just FUNNY! B) You are a strong enough woman to share some of your deepest fears and most uncomfortable thoughts with strangers. C) You build other people up--your comment on your friend's brilliant New Year's resolutions is simple evidence of that. I am very overweight myself and it will be my life struggle (I think everyone has at least one big one...though some people's are on the INSIDE, unlike mine.) I completely understand and applaud your efforts to concentrate on baby steps to being healthy. I'm doing the same. And at the end of the day, no matter what the scale does or does not say, we have to be willing to like ourselves and be proud of the EFFORTS we've made, no matter how seemingly insignificant. If you ever need another buddy to remind you of that, I'm just a mouse-click away! p.s. Here's a funny: I just went to type in the "word verification" here at the bottom so it will allow me to post my comment. Would you believe the word is "dexhun"... is the computer trying to tell me, "You should get some Dexatrim, hun!" ???? :)