"Do I contradict myself? Very well, then I contradict myself , I am large, I contain multitudes."  ~ Walt Whitman

1. I am allergic to raisins.
2. I am not allergic to grapes.
3. Raisins are made from grapes, are they not?
4. I hate boxing and think it's barbaric.
5. If I leave a hockey game without seeing blood on the ice, I feel cheated.
6. I don't believe in astrology.
7. I feel a wee bit superior because I am a Scorpio, the sex symbol of the zodiac!
8. I am proud to have been born in the Year of the Tiger.
9. I feel sorry for all the Rats and Goats.
10. I am convinced that one reason for my happy life is that I live with a Horse and a Dog, which are both compatible with Tigers.
11. I don't believe in the Chinese Zodiac.
12. I am a "people person."
13. I need a lot of "alone time."
14. I am a Christian.
15. I love images of Buddha and Ganesha.
16. I believe in being polite.
17. I curse.  I mean, I effin' curse a LOT.
18. My heart leaps at the sound of Native American flutes and drums and therefore I am convinced I was Indian in a former life.
19. I also believe that I lived in Czarist Russia.
20. When I was a small child, I talked constantly about the friends I had when I was a bunny, before I was a child.
21. A friend-of-a-friend who claims to be psychic showed me a mark on my palm that she says indicates I was a citizen of the lost city of Atlantis.
22. My daughter has the same mark on her palm.
23. When I met my daughter, I felt like we had known each other forever.
24. I do not believe in past lives.
25. I'm putting this list on the internet for the whole world to see.
26. I'm pretty sure this is the kind of thing that is interesting only to me.

Pot Holes on Easy Street

Life has been a bit less than great lately.  Things are not BAD--I'm incredibly blessed.  Let's just say that Easy Street has developed a few pot holes lately.  There is still uncertainty in my job, we're right in the midst of some painful anniversaries, and I've had a lot of trouble sleeping off and on.  And let's face it, the view is less bright with bleary eyes, is it not?

When I start feeling this way, I think a lot about the late Peggy Chun, who inspires me greatly.  No, not Connie Chung!  Do you know who Peggy Chun is?  I have to admit that I had never heard of her until just a few years ago.

Peggy was born in Oklahoma but made her home in Hawaii.  When ALS (Lou Gehrig's disease) took her twin sister, an artist, Peggy became an artist in tribute to her twin.  She became a quite well-known and beloved artist in Hawaii.  And then, she was diagnosed with ALS too.  She kept right on painting.  When she lost the use of her right hand, she learned to paint with her left.  When that also became impossible, she painted by holding the paintbrush in her mouth.  Eventually, ALS robbed her of that ability too.  Did that stop her?  Hell no!  Peggy kept on painting by using a computer program that read her eye commands.  The woman was incapable of breathing on her own, and yet she taught classes in painting.  She wrote a book.  She kept on living her life, communicating solely through eye movements.

Eventually it became clear that she was losing even the ability to control her eye movements, and that it was time to turn off the ventilator.  But not before Peggy finished her bucket list.  With the help of friends and family, she enjoyed a final tub bath, a campfire, a ride on the Superferry, and a going away party in her front yard that lasted all day and night, the electric cord to her ventilator run between the beer coolers.  Her bucket list completed, Peggy passed away in November of 2008.

And so, on those mornings when I lie in bed, weary from lack of sleep, already stressed about the day ahead, wishing I could pull the covers over my head, I think of Peggy Chun.  I think, if she could face ALS and say, "You will not keep me from the things I want to do, and you will not take me until I am ready to go," then surely to goodness I can drag my lazy butt out of bed and face those little pot holes on Easy Street.

The artwork that accompanies this post has nothing to do with Peggy Chun; it is art created by Lil Sweetie using an Iphone app called SpinArt.  Peggy Chun's artwork is lovely and can be easily found by Googling her name...I just wanted to avoid infringing on any copyrights held by her family.

Nudges

I've been thinking a lot about nudges lately.  It all started with a book I read, Nudge: Improving Decisions about Health, Wealth, and Happiness by Richard Thaler and Cass Sunstein.  It's classified as an economic book...not my usual genre by a long shot.  But I saw some blurb somewhere about it which discussed how school cafeterias can encourage children to make better food choices just in how those choices are presented.  For example, children are less likely to eat french fries if they have to go around to the back side of the serving line to get the french fries.  Or, if the chocolate milk is moved behind the white milk, children are less likely to choose it, even though it still is easily available to them.  Fascinating! 

I've been completely mesmerized by this concept.  How can I put this to work in my own life?  Can I encourage myself and my family to make better food choices if I put the carrot sticks and the grapes front and center in the fridge?  How can I use this concept to get my butt in bed at a decent time and finally get enough rest?  I'm just obsessed with it.

And so I've also been thinking about nudges in a more general context.  I really believe that God speaks to us through these nudges...a growing feeling that further and more invasive infertility treatment was not for us, a mention by a friend of an adoption agency looking for potential adoptive parents open to adopting a child of another race, and on the other side of that equation, a young woman with an unplanned pregnancy feels a nudge to contact an adoption agency.  These nudges are miracles, really.  You can't convince me otherwise.

But sometimes I ignore the nudges.  And I wonder how it changes the course of my life.  A few months ago, I woke up one day with a sudden feeling that I should send a friend of mine $200.  For about two days, I could not shake the feeling.  I didn't make a conscious decision not to send the money, but I hemmed and hawed and worried over how the friend would perceive an unexpected check in the mail--she is proud and I was afraid she might be offended.  I never sent the money.  In the intervening months, an unrelated series of events unfolded and now this friend and I are estranged.  And I wonder, would we be if I had just sent that money? 

I do know this, I do intend to listen more closely to those nudges in the future.

The photos that accompany this post have nothing to do with nudges, I just think they are pretty.  I recently visited the Georgia Aquarium and was quite impressed.  If you are ever in Atlanta, it is well worth the rather substantial cost of admission.

Why She Loves Me

1. I feeds her.
2. I drives her places.
3. I cooks food of her.
4. I buys her clothes.
5. I nice.
6. I folds her clothes.
7. I clens the dishes.
8. I buys her book.
9. I is Awesome!
10. I make her lunch.

I asked her why she didn't mention the mother-daughter pedicures and she said because she didn't know how to spell "pedi."  Ha!

Happy Mother's Day!



Possible Scenarios for Heaven

Years ago, I read a blog post that touched me deeply. It was entitled “Possible Scenarios for Heaven” and it was and is one of the most beautiful things I have ever read. All these years later, I still remember it and think about it occasionally which is weird because I don’t even remember how I ended up on that blog.

In the past seven days, Mr. Sweetie lost his auntie, Birdie lost her mother, and my family observed the 20th anniversary of my beautiful little cousin’s accidental death at age 19. It’s been a hard week. So in honor and memory of Janie and Betty Jean and Kelley, here are my own personal possible scenarios for heaven:

• You wake up every day to the smell of coffee and bacon, and warm peach cobbler with homemade vanilla ice cream is considered an acceptable substitute for breakfast.

•  Your front porch has a sweeping view of snow-capped mountains. Your back door opens onto the beach.

• Baseball season lasts all year long, and you have season tickets right behind home plate for your favorite team, the Universal All-time All-stars. Your hot dog never grows cold, your beer never grows warm, and you catch a foul ball at every game.

• Every day right after lunch, you sit at God’s feet while he brushes your hair and tells you how special you are. Then he gives you a hug and insists that you take a nap.

• There is an enormous library in which every book you pick up is the best book you ever read. Included in this library are the answers to all the mysteries of the universe, no matter how big or how small, including whether Lee Harvey Oswald acted alone, whether Big Foot and the Loch Ness Monster exist, whether there is intelligent life on other planets, and where the missing socks go when you do laundry.

• Heaven is a giant craft store that carries only your favorite colors of paints, yarns, beads, and other supplies, so that you don’t even have to look at the icky colors. You can effortlessly learn any art or craft that you like, and every project turns out exactly as you pictured it in your head.

• It is always strawberry season.

• You sleep at night on a screened in porch under a blanket soft and faded with age. Fireflies twinkle in the darkness until a gentle rain starts to fall on the tin roof overhead. From inside the house, you can hear a radio, softly playing Patsy Cline singing “Crazy.”

Ooh, look! Something shiny!

What with the continued public employee bashing in the media, I'm feeling a little beat up lately.  One of the joys of being an eensy bit shallow is that I find it quite easy to distract myself with shiny things.

So behold, my soldered pendants:

I'm still learning, still perfecting my soldering skills.  And I'm having fun with it.

I'm still finishing up the Soul Restoration Workshop.  It's officially over but I'm still working on the last few assignments.  I just can't let go.  It was that good.

And I'm art journaling up a storm.  One of my journals is to help me with my goal to develop some better habits this year in the area of health.  When I want to eat a cupcake or an enormous plate of nachos, I paint, cut, paste, stamp, or write instead. 

Now if you will excuse me, I believe someone mentioned an enormous plate of nachos.  (See, I told you I was easily distracted.)

I'm From the Government and I'm Here to Help

I am a state employee.

Contrary to public opinion, I am not underworked and overpaid, nor do I gleefully mis-transfer calls, nor have I ever once sat around eating bon-bons.  I work hard all day, every day, though not nearly as hard as the state workers who care for our veterans and disabled, maintain our highways, guard our prisons, and the myriad other hard, thankless jobs that state employees do.  You may have read in the paper or seen on the news things that make you think otherwise, but for every crappy, corrupt state employee that makes the news, there are thousands of dedicated, hard-working, ethical state employees with their heads down working. 

There are times the building I work in is uncomfortably warm or cool due to lack of funding for basic maintenance.  I do without basic tools I need to do my job, because it's that or let an employee go and we are already understaffed as it is.  I work on average between 40 and 50 hours a week; I get paid for 40.  I take leave if I am 15 minutes late to work, regardless of how many hours I put in the day before.

My health insurance premium is exorbitant due to a state law that for years has disallowed our insurer to exclude pre-existing conditions.  I know state employees with children with hemophilia, severe autism, and other heart-breaking conditions who went to work for the state solely for the insurance coverage--it's about the only way they could get it.  I don't complain--it's a good recruitment tool. 

 I have excellent benefits and generous paid leave.  The cash value of all of my benefits including salary about equals the salary alone I could get in the private sector.  I get no bonus, no incentive pay.  We pay for our own employee picnics and holiday luncheons--tax revenue cannot be used for such expenditures.  State employees in my state have not had a raise in four years.

We have the authority to do what the law says we can do, no more or less.  Often this stymies us in our ability to perform our mission.  You know when you call the government and we can't help?  It frustrates and pisses us off, too.

Why do I work for the State?  Because I'm a bleeding heart liberal who wants to make a difference, because I come from a tradition of public service, because doing so allows me to practice my profession and still have a life, because unlike my experience in the private sector my client always pays my bill and never once sits in my office and bawls.

I'm not asking for sympathy.  I asked for this job and all told, I love it.  I'm just tired of hearing public employees bashed.  It's a free country and you have every right to speak your mind.  I'm just asking that before you bash public employees, educate yourself.  Things are tough all over.